You can't share
what you don't have.
Real connection starts with self-knowledge. The Kept Index is a free 5-minute self-reflection across three dimensions of relationship intelligence — then you see how you two fit.
No right answers. Answer for who you are on a bad Tuesday — not who you'd like to be.
22
Questions
5 min
Is all it takes
3
Dimensions measured
7
Relational archetypes
What It Measures
Three dimensions. One honest mirror.
Twenty-two questions across the three systems that decide how you show up for the people closest to you.
Module I · Temperament
The raw material — your baseline energy, steadiness, and drive. The traits you bring into every room before a word is spoken.
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Temperament
Built on the open, validated Big Five tradition. See which traits carry your relationships — and which ones need a spotter.
Begin the Index →Module II · Connection Style
How you attach — how you handle closeness, distance, and the space between reaching out and pulling back.
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Connection Style
Whether closeness calms you or distance shakes you, seeing your pattern is the first step to changing the dance.
Begin the Index →Module III · Emotional Intelligence
Reading the room and reading yourself — naming feelings, staying usable under stress, repairing fast.
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Emotional Intelligence
The most trainable dimension of the three. Your score shows where the reps will pay off most.
Begin the Index →The Share Artifact
Seven archetypes. No ranking. One is your headline.
Your archetype is your strongest relational muscle — the thing you bring to the people closest to you, often without noticing it.
The Mirror
You read the room before it speaks. Naming feelings — yours and theirs — is your native language.
Edge: Careful not to manage everyone's emotions but your own.
The Anchor
Closeness doesn't scare you and distance doesn't shake you. People exhale around you.
Edge: Your steadiness can read as passivity — say what you need out loud.
The Harbor
Storms come and you stay usable. Under stress, you're the one still thinking.
Edge: Calm isn't the same as connection — let people see what moves you.
The Hearth
People warm up near you. Goodwill is your default setting, and it shows.
Edge: Don't let harmony cost you honesty.
The Keeper
Your word is load-bearing. What you promise, happens — and everyone around you knows it.
Edge: Let others earn your trust by carrying weight too.
The Spark
You bring the oxygen. Rooms, tables, and conversations light up when you arrive.
Edge: Make sure the quiet ones get the mic sometimes.
The Horizon
You're built for depth and distance — new ideas, hard questions, unexplored ground.
Edge: Remember to land: presence beats novelty in love.
The Process
How It Works
Five minutes solo. Then it gets interesting.
Take the Index
Twenty-two questions, about five minutes, no right answers. Answer honestly — low scores usually mean honesty, and honesty is the point.
Meet your archetype
Get your score out of 100, your dimension-by-dimension breakdown, and your archetype — a shareable card built to be sent, posted, and compared.
See how you two fit
Send your compare link to your partner, your date, or your best friend. They take the same test and you both see the overlap — where you're aligned, where you complement, and the one gap worth talking about. Their answers stay theirs; you only see the combined picture.
FAQ
Common Questions
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Know yourself first. Then compare.
22 questions. No right answers. A result worth sending.